Is just loving enough?!

One may love solitude and yet crave for that one beautiful soul in life. As human beings, we constantly keep searching for one or other kind of companionship. One cannot deny the inbuilt human urge to be fit in, to be part of something large or simply just belong. 

The moment one is born, they are someone's child, someone's grandchild, someone's sibling, someone's cousin and so on and so forth. In the years to come, many of these merely become social 'ties' and yet some other become the rope that pulls you through your ups and downs of life, the threads that come together and knit the safety nets one can always fall into and the threads that sew and mend one's broken pieces.

In the process of life, these threads get tangled and some remain with knots and many more gets broken and gets blown away in the whirlwind. As we weave these threads into beautiful piece, we may find some new threads that fit better and make the piece even more beautiful. 

The threads of these bonds are as beautiful yet delicate. So, it's very important to hold on to them with the perfect pressure. If the grip loosens, it just may slip away even before you realise. If held too tightly, they may just snap away or if the thread is too strong, it will not only  suffocate the other end but make your own hands bleed. It's inevitable to let go some of them when they deviate from the image you are creating or when they find even more fitting picture to be part of. Regardless, they all leave their mark behind that one can choose to cherish or not. 

It is these bonds, your loved ones that make up for what you lack in their own little ways. They bring the missing colour to complete your painting, the missing melody to your symphony, missing taste to your recipe and missing words in your story. Out of billions of people out in the world, they have chosen you, to show their beautiful side which is the result of their endless efforts.  

The love, kindness and forgiveness that we receive from our loved ones aren't easy. One may argue against this by saying love comes more naturally than hate. But, if that's true, why there is more hatred than love in this world? Why there are more acts of crime than the acts of generosity? It's because we are built to survive and not to sacrifice. So, it takes great efforts to be kind, to put someone else before ourselves and when someone is going that extra mile to do so, the least one could do is to appreciate and be grateful rather than brushing it of as 'they are supposed to do that' or simply humanity. 

Let's normalize saying 'thank you', 'love you' and 'sorry' to our closest ones to whom it truly matters to hear it from us. Let them know how much you appreciate their efforts when you still can, instead of regretting the missed opportunities to do so. Let's not just love them but make them feel loved by us. Let's make sure to make our beloved ones feel belonged, feel heard, seen and cared for just like how they do it for us. It's never about the extravaganza but the little gestures and words. Just a simple 'how are you?' can make one's day more bearable if not special. So, let them know the difference they make in your life by merely existing in this vast world. Make yourself be the reason for a smile, laugh or even a happy tear. 

 

-Panchami Kabbinahitlu